Lower your expectations?

Do your hopes and dreams for your own creations (and their failure to meet them) blind you to what they DO have to offer?

You know what it’s like before you begin a new project. In your mind’s eye it’s perfect – whether it’s a simple T, or a pretty dress or killer trousers. You also know how it’s going to make you feel – polished, sexy, comfortable, whatever.

Unfortunately though sometimes they don’t quite turn out that way.

Don’t get me wrong, they aren’t complete fails – they just aren’t quite what you had hoped for. And so you don’t reach for them and they hang – neglected.

But maybe you just need to let go of your hopes for them so that you can appreciate them for what they are.

For example, here’s V8805 that I made a couple (a few) months ago.


I had hoped that this would be a ‘goodish’ dress. Obviously it is casual (as is my life) but I had hoped for ‘better than everyday’.

And you know what? It just isn’t…. ‘better than everyday’ that is.

So I’d put it on, be disappointed that it wasn’t a ‘good’ dress, take it off again and wear something else.

But last week I put it on and realised that it is a great everyday dress. I work from home and so can literally wear shorts and a T-shirt if I wish. And often (too often) I do. But then if I have to pop out to the post office or the market or the local fabric shop (more likely), I need (want?) to get changed and then a quick trip to the shops turns into something slightly more complicated and time consuming. This dress is also cooler and more comfortable than shorts and I certainly feel more ‘dressed’ in it and so I’m ready to go and can be out the door in minutes.

Now I love it.

And the only thing that changed were my expectations.

What about you? Are your hopes blinding you to what your makes DO have to offer?

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6 Responses

  1. I think it is a stylish looking dress — whether you'd work from home or out go to lunch.

  2. onedabbles says:

    I agree – your dress is a definite win (I like the shape of a good shift dress), even if not the item you thought you'd end up with. You're right about expectations. I'll remember this next time I'm not thrilled with a make. I become attached to the dream version and forget to celebrate that I did end up making a perfectly wearable skirt, for example. This feeling is totally different to the get-it-out-of-the-house-burn-it reaction to a true flop… which is still worth making because it's always better to sew than not!

  3. Chris Lucas says:

    I can totally relate to what you're saying. Some of the clothes I've made I've hardly worn and generally it's because it wasn't what I expected it to be for some reason or another. So now the main thing for me is comfort and when somethings comfortable and maybe not so dressy it generally becomes my go to casual garment especially when it's something I'd be more than happy to duck down to the shops or the post office in. At the moment my favourite go to garments are the maxi dresses I made… just love em… wear em, pop em in the wash, wear em again, and best of all they don't need ironing YEAH 🙂

  4. Gaye Proctor says:

    You are right, we all need to remember to celebrate what we did make.

  5. Gaye Proctor says:

    I hear you on the comfort front Chris, especially when it's hot.

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